Privacy and Marriage in To Room Nineteen, by Doris Lessing

â€Å"All human beings have three lives: public, private, and secret.†This quotation can have various interpretations. One main idea which Gabriel Garcà ­a Mà ¡rquez is portraying in this quote is that privacy is vital for a person and gives the individual autonomy and individuality. Without privacy a person would not be able to live normally. However privacy can and is violated in various scenarios, for instance, in marriage. In the story â€Å"To Room Nineteen† written by Doris Lessing the protagonists, Susan Rawlings, privacy was intruded which lead to her suicide. Before Susan married she had a comfortable life with a great career however she was forced to give that all up. In her commentary â€Å"In Room Nineteen-Why Did Susan Commit Suicide?†¦show more content†¦The identity changes result not only from their interaction in the dyad, as described by Berger and Kellner, but also from the common front they present toward the world and the influence of their marriage upon other relations. The process can be expected to have a profound influence upon a wife for several reasons, all embedded in the family institution. In the first place, although girls are socialized into individualistic personality identities, married women and mothers are expected to be oriented primarily toward family welfare. Secondly, the roles of wife and mother are considered the basic and the only really important ones for adult women .The addition of the roles of husband and father are not expected to produce an equivalently significant shift in the role cluster of men. Finally, the reality constructed by a couple symbolically and in actual life-style tends to be built around the husbands occupational role outside of the home (408). Additionally, Lopata emphasizes that the importance of marriage in the life of a woman is symbolized by her name change. In effect, becoming Mrs. Harry Jones wipes out the whole past of Mary Smith, her family, her ethnic and personal achievement identities. In the historical past this was accompanied by a complete shift into the husbands family-life-style, and even now continuity of identity without change is almostShow MoreRelatedTo Room Nineteen Crytical Analysis1710 Words   |  7 Pages_To Room Nineteen_ I plan to argue To Room Nineteen by Doris Lessing for an audience of professors interested in the field of psychology and its affect on womens lives, stating that the cause of suicide for Ms. Dubois is not because of the social judgments and perception negatively that impacted Susans domestic responsibilities but rather the lack of emotion within her life and her relationship with her husband, because she could live up to the ideals valued by culture and beliefs but deepRead MoreThe Hours - Film Analysis12007 Words   |  49 Pagespreparations for a party she will give the same evening. During the day, she now and then reminisces on the time she was eighteen and lived at her parents house at Bourton. Her thoughts turn to her past love Peter Walsh and her rejection of his marriage proposal and to another old friend from Bourton, Sally Seton, with whom she was once in love. However, those times are all long gone now, and Clarissa is married to Richard Dalloway and has not seen her old friends for years; Sally having married